Getting over a Heartbreak | Tips to lead a happy life
Heartbreaks, have been romanticized
since ages, because yes! They are a real thing. Your heart
can shatter into a million pieces and no one can even get a wind of it.
But what sucks more is the fact that
even you cannot do anything about it, except for yelling at people, "I'm
okay" because
a) People don't understand what you're going through
b) If you tell them, you'll be the new subject of gossips and mockery in
the corridors.
We humans, have this awful habit of masking
away our problems, trying not to deal with it. We conceal the truth, and feed
ourselves with lies, why? Because that makes us feel better.
Sometimes, we thrust heartbreaks upon
ourselves, by not walking in the light of truth. I cannot even recall how many
times, I made excuses for this one guy, who would randomly stop texting or
calling me, not because he was busy, but because he was busy with some other
random girl. I was not ready to accept the fact that someone else was given the
importance that I deserved, but ladies, one thing is for sure, a man doesn't say all that he is, but he sure
as hell would make it evident with his actions.
So, if your man is not texting you or
calling you, it clearly implies, he doesn't want to. Now you might say,
"what if his phone died?" yeah, that could be a possibility, but only
once or twice. I mean, do you really think in this epoch of technology, anybody
could go an hour without a phone? The answer is a big NO.
When it comes to guys, there is hardly
any exception, owing to the fact that if they are attracted to a girl,
they would by no means ignore her, in fact they would go, out of their way to
be with her, or have a conversation with her, it took me quite long to accept
this reality, and I in no way wish that you commit the same mistake.
Ask yourself, do you really wanna be
with someone who considers you as a second option? No way. You deserve someone
you treats you as their priority.
I mean why on
earth you would wanna settle for less, when you deserve the best.
You know, rejection is normal and it can
come in any form, getting replaced, being ignored and oh yes! The worst of
all, breakups!
The only question that resides at the
back of our heads is that, why weren't we enough?
But the truth might actually surprise
you, that you are enough and yes, beautiful too, and the most arduous factor
here is, acceptance. It’s okay to shatter, it’s okay to feel pain, because “that’s the thing about pain, it demands to
be felt”, John Green said this dead on, in his book, ‘The fault in our
stars’.
Pain only makes us human, but what’s
crucial is what succeeds it, whether we break and allow the pain to wreck us or
make our way through it, and accept it. The former is what most of the people
do, but it only magnifies the problem. The only way out of this hellhole of
heartbreak is accepting it and moving on. Which in no way, is anything even
close to easy, but it’s the only way out. Now you can do this by many means,
1) Finding a new hobby
2) Spending more time on yourself
3) Hanging out with friends
4) Exercise (it elevates the mood)
But if you look clearly, there is one
thing common in all, it is, distraction. In order to shift your focus from pain
to happiness, you need to find yourself a distraction, it could be anything, a
hobby, TV, sleep, food, and the list is endless. But according to science, the
best way to avert your focus from something, is to get something exactly like
that, but better. Now, if you’re getting the hint, it is clear in order to get
over guy, you need to get a new guy, and don’t do this to make him jealous, but
yourself happy.
Great post
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